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Why My ADHD Brother is a Blessing

“Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder or commonly known as ADHD is a chronic condition marked by persistent inattention, hyperactivity, and sometimes impulsivity” (webmd). We often hear in the media of ADHD medications being over prescribed to children who seem to be lacking attention in school. While this may be true my brother has greatly benefited from his initial diagnosis and what his medication has done for him.

At the age of four my younger brother started inhibiting strange behaviors. He had a terrible time controlling himself (but let’s be honest what four year old is an angel?) With out ever assuming something could be wrong we just brushed it off. Especially living in a society where over medicating is a real/scary occurrence. After his first couple years of elementary school it was apparent there was more to his behaviors.My parents knew something wasn’t right. For the longest time they did not have the support of anyone. Most would say “he will out grow it, he’s a boy”. Most comical line “he’s a boy”. Does being a boy excuse them from anything and everything?! Mini rant, back to the topic, another year passed by and my parents couldn’t wait any longer. Finally they got an immense amount of support from his third grade teacher, which he adored. After months of doctor’s appointments and tests he got diagnosed with ADHD.

His diagnosis was a blessing. Before his medication my brother had a hard time controlling his emotions, body movements, focus during school and struggling socially. Me being 7.5 years older than him and knowing how means kids are to each other, it hurt me to see him struggle to make friends. Even being a relatively normal child I still got picked on. Fast-forward almost five years and you would never know he had a disorder (unless you lived with him). He can keep his attention in school and most importantly has gained confidence in himself because he knows he is in control.

With such a large age gap I am protective over him. ADHD is a real disorder and I have witnessed it for six years and counting. I still encounter people who believe this disorder is an excuse for bad behavior and they can go fly.This diagnosis has helped my brother and has also helped me. It has taught me an excruciating amount of patience and to have empathy for his struggles. Yes it is annoying as all hell for our family when he doesn’t listen or sit down but it must be more frustrating for him; imagine not having control of your own body? Wanting to stop but knowing you can’t.

With out his diagnosis his condition may have been worse and he probably would’ve been a different kid. Living in a world where over diagnosing/medicating happens often it’s important to remember that not everyone falls in that category. His disorder certainly does not define him and I am proud to be his older sister and wouldn’t change or trade him for anything. Side note: Probably the only thirteen year old I know who doesn’t like swearing and hands down one of the smartest humans around. Love to love ya bro.

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