How Do You See Yourself?

Have you ever asked yourself “How do others see me?”. If I could step outside of my body and see myself, would I be happy with the person who stands before me? Not limiting my physical appearance but my mental capabilities as well.

I was intrigued by the topic I had learned in my psychology class “Self-Concept”. This theory is molded by the “idea or mental image one has of oneself and one’s strengths, weaknesses and status”**. How we visualize our thoughts, images and everyday experiences is known to be self-learned. 

We are not programmed with self-concept at birth, we learn and adapt. Over the period of our childhood and into our young adolescent years is when self-concept is formed. There are many factors that effect how we see ourselves.

A negative factor for example, media. Television, social-networking, billboards can all lead to a poor self-concept. As humans we know perfection isn’t real yet we still strive for it. Some may say the concept of perfection is a great motivator and others will say it’s a vicious mind teaser. But positive factors such as family and friends have a better influence. When surrounded by uplifting energy and support you may feel a high self-concept.

When we stand in the mirror it reflects back to us, 1. What we want to see and 2. What is actually there. I like to refer it as the “Double-Mirror Theory”. We are experts at picking ourselves a part, we ALL want to change something. But if we pointed out all the different, beautiful and intriguing characteristics about ourselves it would do wonders for our self-concepts.

The million dollar question is, why do we want to view ourselves how others see us? Is it that important? Or are we simply looking to better ourselves? No matter the reason how you view yourself is more important than how others view you. How you do see yourself may affect how others really do view you, it’s kind of a catch 22. Remember, you need to always see yourself as a strong individual, mind and body.



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